Showing posts with label The Business of Being Born. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The Business of Being Born. Show all posts

Friday, August 12, 2011

Week 29: Me, Whiny?

Whatever you do, don't ask me how I'm feeling.  Emotionally?  I'm a lot more stable than in past weeks.  Physically?  Well, I could whine for hours.  I def. feel my insides being compressed as little man gets bigger and takes up more room.  Incidentally, my stomach has shrunk while my appetite has grown.  Go figure!  The heartburn is RIDICULOUS.  When I describe it to Kyle he says, "That sounds like when I had an ulcer."   My lower back HURTS, and sleeping is the worst part.  Also, I can't lift simple things anymore like the laundry basket.  Not only is it too heavy, but I no longer have a hip to rest it on! Add onto that all the schweaty hours I spend at work and well, I'm a little whiny.  However, I believe in a 'don't ask, don't tell' policy so as long as you don't ask about how I'm feeling, I won't tell you! 

On Saturday, Kyle and I went to an 8-hour birthing class at our hospital.  The first part of the day focused on natural, intervention-free birth and breathing techniques.  The second part discussed medical interventions and c-section.  I knew about almost all the content since I had seen The Business of Being Born and read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth.   Even though I knew the content,  I was happy to be informed of the hospitals point-of-view.  For instance, they are all about throwing the baby on your stomach after birth and getting right to breastfeeding.  Our nurse also said that the bed moves so you can try a bunch of different birthing positions.  Of course, the best part is that they will provide a mirror so I can see the baby being born!  Sweet!  It will be interesting to see how long I can watch that.... 

On Sunday,  Kyle and I were total bums; even so, I managed to finish McBaby's Memory Book.  I chose to make the baby book, rather than buy a pre-made one because I wanted to be able to personalize the pages. To make the book,  I followed this template from Young House Love.  


It's fun to think about all of the pictures we'll be taking of our little guy to fill the book.  Ranging from "My First Day Home" to "My First Christmas" all the way to "My First Birthday."  I love imagining what he's going to look like in all those pictures!

I had a visit to the nurse practitioner today, and asked a TON of questions!  What's the baby's position in my stomach? (He's transverse, as I suspected from the jabs at both ends of my stomach!)  At what point do we try to turn him? (He should turn on his own as his head gets heavier and gravity pulls it downwards, but if he doesn't we'll talk external turning around 36 weeks) Can I still be laying on my back when I sleep?  Do I need more sleep?  Why do I see so many bright floating spots when I look out a window?  How will I know if I've overheated at work?  What should I do if when I overheat? Are there any specific foods to avoid?  Eat more of? 

 I was glad I asked the last question because she told me my iron level was slightly lower than it should have been when I last had my blood drawn.  This was surprising as I religiously take my prenatal vitamin.  However, now it makes sense because I was taking it with dinner and after reading the vitamin's 'directions' recently, I learned that taking it one hour before drinking dairy or two hours after having dairy could reduce the iron absorption.  (I was downing my pill with milk every night at dinner!)  The 'directions' also said to avoid taking the pill with an antacid, which can also reduce iron absorption.  (I would take an antacid about every three nights at dinner time!)  So basically, a lower iron count makes sense, and I've learned to read the fine print that comes along with medicine.

In fur-baby news, Buster is keeping us busy.  On Wednesday night, Kyle and I had just finished dinner around 6 o'clock.  He headed out to the garden with the dogs while I went to my room to get ready to meet some friends.  When I came out of the room about twenty minutes later, all I could say was "What is that smell!?"  "It smells like a moldy turd."  "No, it's cat pee."  "Someone's cooking a dirty diaper."  This smell was AWFUL and yet so mysterious.  I wish I could share it with you scratch and sniff style through this blog so you could know just how terrible it really was.   After walking around our house for a while with a scrunched up face sniffing for the origin of the odor, I gave up and sat at the computer.  Note:  Kyle didn't smell it at all and thought I was making it all up.  While sitting at the computer, I noticed Sissy sitting right next to Buster. Nothing out of the ordinary; those two cuddle all the time.
Before I knew it, Sissy was licking Buster's neck!  She had NEVER done this before, and I freaked out because it was the cutest thing I'd ever seen.  All adorable doggy-times must come to an end, Sissy stopped licking Buster, and they got put into their kennels.  Fast forward two hours, and we're back home.  Kyle let the dogs out, and Buster jumped up onto my leg.  I reached down to pet him and felt a huge patch of greasy fur on his neck.  Then the smell hit me.   My reflex was to yell for Kyle, who came and felt the greasy patch.  He was then ordered to smell it, which he did, then promptly picked up the dog to give him a bath.  The next morning, the stench was still in the air especially when you got close to Buster.  I went about my day as usual (work at school, eat Jimmy Johns, go to the pool), got home around 4, and gave the dogs their second baths in 24 hours.  There was a noticeable difference in the smell afterwards! 

Fast forward to dinner time when Kyle and I were talking about this.  I say, "It just smelled so....musky.  What type of animal would musk?"  Then Kyle decides to bring up a little anecdote about last night while he was in the garden, and Buster was in an overgrown corner of our backyard. Evidently, Kyle heard Buster scuffling with something, but like a good father, chose to ignore it.  He tells me, "I thought it was probably just a snake so I went and looked around for a dead one after Buster got out of the corner.  I didn't find a body, so I guess he just ate the whole thing."  REALLY?  REALLY!  Up until that point I hadn't even considered Buster eating an animal; I assumed the something musked him and ran off.  Now I have the visual of my him getting musked, tearing a snake apart, and eating it.  Thanks, Kyle!

Today is my last official day of summer vacation!  I can honestly say this have been one of my best summers, but can hardly wait till next summer when I'll have an 8 month-old boy to play with all day! 

Monday, August 1, 2011

Week 28: The Baby Floats out on a Cloud, Right?

This past weekend I finished reading The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp.  It's was about how to soothe a colicky baby.  Reading it taught me a lot about how to calm a baby, but also made me realize how much more goes into taking care of a baby that I don't know.  Kyle told his friend on the phone last night, "Yeah, we've got no idea what to do with it when it gets here."  The Happiest Baby on the Block even mentioned how parents think they will instinctively know what to do with their new baby, but in reality, that's not how it works.  Uh-oh!  Must keep reading....

I guess we're getting ahead of ourselves though, I mean, the baby has to come out first, right?  The doctor brought this up on Friday when she showed me a piece of paper on which I could write my 'birth wishes.'  Oh crap, I guess I have to think about actually giving birth now.  Naturally, I turned to my girl Ricki Lake for advice; Ellen was busy.  

Ricki Lake had a lot to say on the topic of giving birth, so much so that she made a movie about it in 2008 called The Business of Being Born.  This movie was a documentary about the birthing system in the United States.   It shared good information and gave me a lot to think about when it comes to my birth experience. The births in this video were beautiful.  I had to bite my lip each time the baby came out because you could feel the mother's joy; I wanted to cry each time.  Seriously- these hormones are ridiculous!  I didn't realize how naked the whole birthing experience is.  I thought you wore a gown and lifted it up when the baby was about to come out, but evidently, you bear it all when you're having a kid.  So, sorry mom, dad, cousins, neighbors, Buster; you will not be in the room with me while I'm giving birth.  (Did I just hear a sigh of relief?)  Instead, I plan on finding a doula and/or a midwife.  I must thank Ricki Lake for all the insight into giving birth and let you know that you too can watch the movie; it's on Netflix streaming!

I am also reading a stellar book on birthing called Ina May's Guide to Child Birth.
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In the forward, Ina May, an experienced midwife, discusses how telling birth horror stories has become a regular thing to do, so much so that women go into the whole birthing experience frightened and expecting it to be an awful experience. To counteract the horror stories, this book starts out with about 70 positive, real, natural birth stories.  The second part of the book informs the reader what happens in labor, giving birth, common medical interventions, and much more.  I'm hoping to learn a lot from this book; I'm sure it will help guide my birth plan.  However, the main useable ideas I've gotten from it and the movie so far are to move around a lot during labor and to take my time going to the hospital.  Who knows what information I'll actually use from the book and movie, but I feel much more informed now and will feel even more so when I've finished the book. 

The third trimester starts today!  I can't believe I'm 2/3 of the way through my pregnancy, and my little boy will be born in less than three months!  Actually, three months exactly would give him a pretty cool birthday- 11/1/11.  : )

The doctor's office should call back with the result of my glucose test any day now.
Am I weird for thinking the glucose drink tasted good?  I actually heard myself say, "Yum!" and "I wonder if I can get another one of these" while I was drinking it!  It reminded me of those barrel drinks my mom would buy for us when we were kids.  The flavors were either grape, blue raspberry, orange, or fruit punch.  I LOVED drinking them as a kid and would often take them to school in my Animaniacs lunch box!  Coincidentally, barrel drinks are exactly the kind of drinks I will try keep away from my child- full of sugar and devoid of nutritional value! 

As I mentioned last week, my lower back has been bothering me while I sleep.  There are no comfortable sleeping positions!  I feel like I've put up with the back pain for long enough (7 days is like forever when you wake up with a sore back!) so I sucked it up and bought a Snoogle.  The price on the pillow was ridiculous, but I've tried rearranging all of the pillows we already have- under my stomach? between my knees? against my back? I still wake up sore.  Here's to hoping the Snoogle is the miracle pillow all the reviews claim!

Time to go enjoy my last two weeks of summer!